01 Mar Being Well–Grounded
Our friend Amy has come into her own around the technology of Instantaneous Transformation. At age 27 she was, of course, an adult when we first made her acquaintance, but as the years have passed she and her husband Andy have become firmly rooted in an overall sense of well–being, well–grounded in their own personal centers.
When Amy was 38 she had her first son, and now she and her husband Andy are the proud parents of two boys, Alex, age ten, and Aidan, age seven. Sometimes the family is affectionately referred to as the “A Team”.
When Alex was age five the couple brought him to a local Taekwondo studio to see if he might enjoy the sport. It turned out to be a hit. The instructor was great, Alex enjoyed the moves, the exercise and the discipline and he had fun with the whole experience. Taekwondo, like most martial arts, has levels and belts and practitioners work their way up to, hopefully one day, a black belt. It wasn’t too long before Alex tested and won his very first belt – it was white.
Alex’s classes looked like so much fun that Amy and Andy decided to give it a go. It turned out that they love it, too. When it came time to test for their white belt, Alex coached them solemnly and oh–so–sweetly.
“Don’t worry,” he said. “You’ll be fine. You can do this. Just remember to breathe and have fun.” He was right. They did just fine and now the whole family enjoys the sport and have delighted friends with impromptu demonstrations of some of the strength training that goes along with it. Amy and Andy will do push ups with Alex and Aidan on their backs doing push ups right along with them.
One day when Alex was around 8, Amy picked him up from a play date with his friend Dillon. As she drove him home he was sitting in his car seat in the back of the family sedan. “Mommy,” he suddenly said. “What’s grounded?” Amy thought for a moment to compose a response.
“Well Alex, grounded is another way of saying centered. You know, like when you are really balanced on your feet in Taekwondo. It is when you are really down to earth rather than when you are distracted by something.”
As she navigated a turn she said almost absently, “Why do you ask?”
“Dillon’s mommy is always getting mad at him. She kept saying, “Dillon, you are in so much trouble! You’re grounded!”
It was then that Amy realized that being “grounded” was all a matter of context. She found herself smiling as she saw the disparity in usage of the term. She explained that Dillon’s mom meant that he didn’t get to go anywhere and probably had his video game privileges suspended. When Dillon’s mom said “grounded” she meant a strong version of “time out.”
As Amy pulled into her driveway she realized that she was happy that Alex was growing up as a well–grounded boy rather than one who was frequently grounded.