Anyone who regularly attends seminars with Ariel & Shya Kane has likely come across the idea that we are not the voice in our heads, but rather the ones who listen to it. For many, this concept feels strange or even incomprehensible. How can there be something in my own head that isn’t me? And if it isn’t me—then who is it?
Not long ago, I was on a sunny holiday in Italy with my family, and there I experienced what I would call irrefutable proof that the voice in my head is, in fact, not me.
We were driving down the Italian highway in our 37-year-old VW camper van, towing a trailer. With no air conditioning and temperatures soaring to 32°C (90°F), all windows were wide open. Due to the rather different Italian driving style, I felt compelled to signal more clearly—beyond just using the indicator—that I was about to change lanes. So, like a proper old-school cyclist, I extended my left arm out of the window. Immediately, the voice in my head chimed in—urgent, dramatic, and concerned: “Careful! Don’t lose your wedding ring in the wind!”
Once I had safely completed the lane change and survived the hypothetical ring loss, I couldn’t help but laugh—because, truth be told, I lost my left ring finger years ago in an accident. There is no ring to lose, nor a finger for it to sit on. And so, I was once again reminded: I am not the voice in my head. Because I know the true situation of my hand. I merely listen to the voice—and sometimes, I laugh at it.
By Ulf Duvigneau — © 1996 – 2026 www.transformationmadeeasy.com. Click to subscribe to our newsletter and blog.
What a great story . Thank you so much for sharing 🙏
Thank you, Ulf!
Also for taking us along on your holiday, I could feel the hot air and smell summer 🙂