Seamlessly Me

By Eric Ruben

Seamlessly Me

I’m a lawyer, an actor, a musician, and a songwriter. I used to think that I had to choose to be one thing or another. As a result of my participation in the Kanes’ Living Made Easy seminars, weekends, and Instantaneous Transformation Costa Rican seminars, I realized I don’t have to put myself into a box. I’ve discovered I can be all those things.

Although I have offices in Manhattan and Boston, I generally work at my dining room table in my apartment in Brooklyn. I have a credenza that holds all my business materials, from my printer to paper and ink. In my mind I had designated this area for “work,” which in my original mental schematic is separate from “play” or, in this case, playing my guitars. So I used to keep my guitars out of sight, in their cases, in my bedroom closet. That meant that when I had the thought to practice or write a song, I needed to go to the back of my apartment, grab the guitar, take it from its case, and bring it out to where I was working. More than once, I decided the effort wasn’t worth it.

Then one day, I realized how I had set myself up to fail. I suddenly saw that it was possible to move seamlessly from task-to-task and from work to play rather than slot activities into categories. No longer did my music need to take a back seat and be hidden out of sight until I made time for it. 

I moved my guitars into my dining room/office and set them on stands. Not only are they nice to look at, but now when I have the impulse to play or write music, I just grab a guitar and reach into the bowl of guitar picks I keep on the credenza. Playing is also a great way to switch gears and clear my head.  

It wasn’t too long after bringing my guitars out that I encountered a new challenge. There were times when I had the thought that I SHOULD play or write, even when it was clear that I didn’t really want to. My internal voice would complain about me and say how I was lazy and how I was doing my life wrong.

Thankfully, I can make the distinction between myself and my thoughts – those thoughts aren’t me, I’m the one who hears them. Those “should” thoughts are clearly based in a “change” reality where I need to be concerned with what a better me would do. But that’s not real. In fact, when I feel to write or play, it’s a very different process from thinking I should. 

Now I can see the guitars and enjoy that they’re there, whether I play them or not. My mind doesn’t dictate my actions. Now I actually have a choice.

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Very cool. I’m flummoxed (dazzled, impressed) by your prodigal talents, that you’ve built a life, musically and otherwise, in which you have available a cornucopia of options for play and creativity. Thank heavens you dumped the need to be “right” each time you choose to do one or the other — one of those bogus mind traps that you correctly say was making you miserable — or thank the Kanes, that is. Wonderful friends!

🙂 thanks for sharing

Love it! Thanks, Eric – your insights are so practical, refreshing and inspiring! 🙂

Wow Eric, this is so inspiring and just what I needed to read. Thank you for sharing your experience.

Such a lovely perspective, thanks Eric – hope to hear you play sometime!