30 Jun Magical Relationships are Possible
I came across the Kanes transformational approach about three of four months ago. I’ve never had the chance to attend any of their seminars or events, but I have read their book How to Create A Magical Relationship and listened to most of their radio shows. And I have to admit that they have helped me so much to engage into my own life, without them even knowing. So I’d like to thank the Kanes and all the community for BEING HERE !!
Now I’d like to share something with you regarding how my love life has transformed.
I met a wonderful guy last summer and the connection between us felt so obvious that we began a relationship right away. We had many things in common, but at the same time we kind of complemented each other. He’s a person who’s gone through some tough times in his recent past, but instead of mourning decided to be in the moment and enjoy life as it comes, and thus he doesn’t get too attached to things or preoccupied about what will come next.
On the opposite side, I’ve always been very thoughtful, needing to know what to expect in each moment and have a clear plan to reach what I think is my perfect future to feel reassured. We were having a great time together and the relationship seemed perfect at the beginning, but as the weeks went by and we got closer, a sense of uncertainty took over me. Although he always tried to engage me into the moment and just live and enjoy it, my mind was always racing forward or backward in time and wondering “…this is so good, but will it last? when will I see him again? Does he enjoy being with me as much as I enjoy being with him? Will he miss me tomorrow?”I started to think that he was very insensitive for not wanting to be with me all the time, and the moments together didn’t feel as great as they used to any more.
It was like a downward spiral, and the relationship only lasted for three months. He broke it off.
Although I knew it was not really working, I felt devastated and like a failure for months afterwards. I just couldn’t believe it was over, and that I had lost that wonderful man and wasn’t even aware of how it had happened.
After a few months, as I began to get over the situation, re-connecting with my friends and making new ones, and engaging in my life again, he suddenly reappeared, right when I had accepted that I would most likely never see him again.
We started seeing each other from time to time, until we eventually started dating again. In fact, now we’re dating more casually and don’t see each other that often, but in the last three months we’ve done much more interesting and fun things than when we first got together: we’ve been on a trip together, gone trekking, been to the theater, met some of his friends, and had quite deep conversations about love and life and ourselves.
I know I’m just starting this transformational journey, and I still disengage and worry sometimes, but what I’ve learned from the Kanes is helping me so much in all aspects of my life, and especially in my relationship with this man. I don’t worry so much about the future outcome, I fully engage with him and enjoy every second we are together to the fullest.
He told me the other night that I had changed so much since last year when we first met, that he had noticed how I had replaced my old automatic “no” by a new “why not?” I said that I was trying to say “yes” to my life and live in the moment, and that it was making me feel really good. And he said that it really showed.
And just as a side note, that night we had the most beautiful date since we met. If someone had asked me to pick and gather all my favourite details of each particular date we’ve had, and write them down to replay them again for me, all of them where met that night. Everything played out in each moment just as I secretly wished, even the things that were out of my control and completely in his hands. I’d like to believe that engaging in the moment and being my true self had a lot to do with it.
Do you agree?