You Never Walk the Dog!
(Beyond Coincidence)
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Do you still think that your private thoughts are private? Do you actually believe that they are yours and yours alone? Have you caught yet how your environment and those who are in it can dramatically impact what you think and how you think?
Let's investigate the phenomena of linking up with those around you and your interconnectivity to other human beings. The place to begin is to become aware of your thought processes and internal conversation. Then notice the changes in flavor, cadence or content of those thoughts. As you depersonalize what "you" are saying in the apparent privacy of your thoughts, you no longer have to fall prey to your mind's machinations. If you notice your thoughts without judging what you see (or hear yourself saying to yourself) then your internal commentary will no longer have to dominate your actions and your life. And who knows... bringing awareness (a nonjudgmental observing) to your thoughts may save you from fighting a fight that is not even yours!
The two of us had a dramatic example of just how this works in 1989. It was early in our careers together and we were not as firmly rooted in a transformational lifestyle. (In other words, it was easier in those days to lose our center.)
On this particular occasion, we were about to give a private consulting session to a couple whom we had not met before who were coming to us on the recommendation of a friend. We arrived a bit early to set up the apartment we used for our coaching. As we waited for the couple, we made ourselves a cup of tea and then we began to bicker. As our disagreement escalated, it went something like this:
"It would be nice if you would give me a hand in here."
"Don't talk to me in that tone. I've done plenty today."
"Yeah? Well, you never help in the kitchen. I am always doing the dishes."
"Yeah? Well, you never walk the dog!"
At that moment both of us froze in amazement – We didn't have a dog. In fact, in all the years that we have been together, we have never had a dog. We burst into laughter – the bickering was busted.
Shortly thereafter the couple arrived. As we sat together they began to discuss what they saw as the disconnect in their relationship and eventually they laid out their usual list of grievances: She doesn't do this, He doesn't do that....and finally one of them said it: "Yeah? Well you never walk the dog!"
We looked at each other once again in amazement. It was a moment beyond coincidence. We knew that everyone has the ability to synch up with others, but this was an undeniable demonstration of this capacity in action, which demonstrated the dynamic of synchronized thinking so dramatically that we have never forgotten it. It crystallized a possibility that has led us to a line of inquiry that is still alive today.
Don't forget, we had never met either one of these people in person before. The only contact we had was over the phone to set an appointment time. Yet their way of being transcended time and space and somehow we received the essence of them in our own situation and circumstances. So much so that we started acting out their dynamic. You could think of it like someone coming to your home bringing a dish for dinner. As they arrive at your front door the smell of the food precedes them into your living room and as the aroma wafts into your home it smells as if you have been cooking.
We are not sure how it happens. But we are sure that it happens. Look around where you are in this moment. Look at the air that you are breathing. If you were to look across the room or off to the horizon, aside from air quality on a hazy day, common sense says nothing much exists between you and the next hard surface. However, plug in a radio. Turn on a wireless router for your computer. There is information floating in the air around you and through you. Human beings are among the most sophisticated receivers on the planet. It is just that science hasn't caught up with the measurements for and explanation of how it works.
So next time you think, "I don't want to get up," or you find yourself mentally complaining about your job, your relationship, or any other aspect of your life, you don't have to take what "you" are saying so seriously. When you find yourself wanting to hum along with the "this isn't it" tune playing in the background, now you can turn your attention to other things. When you find the impulse to bicker you can relax and bypass that urge. Oh, by the way, feeling well in yourself can communicate across the ethos, too. But that is a whole other article.
Since 1987, internationally acclaimed authors, seminar leaders, and business consultants Ariel and Shya Kane have acted as guides, leading people through the swamp of the mind into the clarity and brilliance of the moment. To find out more about the Kanes and their Transformational Community or to sign up to join their email newsletter, The Excellence Club: Having It All, visit their website at: www.TransformationMadeEasy.com. Information about their three award-winning books – Working On Yourself Doesn't Work: The 3 Simple Ideas that will Instantaneously Transform Your Life, How to Create A Magical Relationship: The 3 Simple Ideas that will Instantaneously Transform Your Love Life and Being Here, Modern Day Tales of Enlightenment – is also available on their website.
